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“You? A Man?” – A Conversation on Menopause in Kathmandu

Posted on June 4, 2024 by sunoor

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Picture courtesy Australian Embassy Nepal

Here I was, walking into the meeting hall for the Australian Embassy Kathmandu‘s “Menopause to Meno-peak” seminar, when I bumped into an acquaintance. Her greeting was as blunt as it was good-natured: “You? A man? On a menopause panel?” A fantastic start, I thought, for the lone male panelist on an all-star female team, especially considering the topic!

Truth be told, from the moment I accepted Ambassador Felicity Volk‘s invitation, I felt a similar sense of exhilaration (and maybe a touch of panic) as when you score a last-minute business class upgrade at check-in, only to realize you’re in your shorts and flip-flops!

Menopause, dialogue and engagement of boys and men on female sexual reproductive health. Gender equity. Nepal Sunoor Verma

Picture courtesy Australian Embassy Nepal

But any initial awkwardness melted away when I met my co-panelists. Ani Choying Drolma, the world-famous Buddhist Singing Nun, and Allie Pepper , the mountaineer who conquers peaks without supplemental oxygen to raise awareness about menopause and inspire women. These were powerhouse women, and I was about to embark on a truly unique conversation.

The audience was just as inspiring—a diverse mix of activists, policymakers, politicians, lawyers, health experts, and media of all ages and genders. Their questions during the Q&A session were as sharp as they were insightful, sparking a truly dynamic exchange.

Menopause, dialogue and engagement of boys and men on female sexual reproductive health. Gender equity. Nepal Sunoor Verma — *Ani Choying Drolma on her journey and menopause. Picture courtesy Australian Embassy Nepal*

One particularly powerful moment came when Ani Choying Drolma shared her experiences with menopause. In many countries, faith and sexual and reproductive health are seen as opposing concepts. Ani’s courage in speaking openly highlighted the critical need for bridges between these areas. Her talk was a call to action, paving the way for partnerships to empower women on a deeper level.

Ambassador Felicity Volk‘s point about integrating #menopause knowledge into existing medical practices resonated deeply in her welcome remarks. We don’t need a whole new breed of specialists but a broader understanding among all health practitioners.

Being the only man on the panel also brought a dose of self-reflection. When the ace moderator Neeti Aryal Khanal, PhD asked how I felt, I confessed to feeling hyper-aware of #mansplaining, #manspreading, and all the other “man” faux pas! It gave me a heightened sense of being on the margins, similar to how many women might feel navigating traditionally male-dominated spaces, especially discussion panels.

The complexities of menopause and Nepal’s unique socio-economic context led to some interesting discussions about potential solutions. When invited to share my thoughts, here is what I offered at different levels on the way forward. Some short-term and some more long-term:

Men: We need to listen and engage with women actively. Stepping outside our comfort zones and initiating conversations is a crucial first step. Don’t only listen but take notes.

Businesses: Make menopause resources readily available to your staff. Consider forming a health group that openly discusses both male and female sexual and reproductive health matters.

SRH (Sexual & Reproductive Health) Organizations: Rethink your strategies. Can we truly expect men to support women’s health if their own needs are neglected? Engaging them is essential.

Donors and Diplomats: Link aid to recipient countries to measurable improvements in women’s health indicators—a powerful measure of societal progress.

Women: Don’t give up on men! We may learn slower, but when engaged through the lens of our own health and family well-being, we often “get it” eventually.

This experience in #Kathmandu adds another chapter to a unique journey – being the only male speaker on all-female panels focused on women’s education, climate change and health in Geneva, Kigali, and now Kathmandu, respectively. Thank you to the Australian Embassy Kathmandu, Graduate Women International, and Observer Research Foundation for these incredible opportunities!

Published on LinkedIn on 04 June 2024

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Seven Troubling Trends in Indian Elections 2024

Posted on May 29, 2024 by sunoor

As India votes in the 2024 elections, seven alarming trends that transcend party lines threaten the core of its democratic values and reflect systemic problems within the political sphere.

One of the most alarming tendencies in Indian politics today is accepting corruption as a necessary transaction cost.

Campaign conversations now revolve around the ‘decent’ per cent of kickbacks, indicating a broad acceptance of corruption. Across party lines, all major political parties have benefited from the electoral bonds system’s lack of transparency, which permits unlimited and anonymous donations, creating an environment conducive to corruption. Furthermore, recent corruption scandals involving officials from several political parties demonstrate the bipartisan nature of corruption.

Another alarming trend is the widespread acceptability of violence against women, both within and outside political parties. For example, India’s decorated female wrestlers protested harassment and sexual assault by a prominent politician by sitting on the pavements of Delhi for 4 months, 4 weeks and 1 day, before any serious inquiry was set up. Similarly, the tragic episode in Manipur in which women were paraded naked, as well as the big sex and video scandal in the opposition-ruled Karnataka state, highlight this troubling tendency. Furthermore, the current example of a female parliamentarian being allegedly abused at the home of Delhi’s Chief Minister, who also leads the country’s newest political party, highlights the rot. The absent or at best lethargic response of politicians to allegations of abuse by women showcases the systemic nature of the problem. Tragically this widespread acceptance of abuse stands in stark contrast to the hyper-targeted election campaigns by all parties vying for women’s votes.

It suggests a cynical belief among India’s politicians that women can be taken for granted, are oblivious to such contradictions, or are compliant and immune to abuse.

Perhaps the most depressing trend is omitting critical nation-building issues like education, healthcare, and employment from the current election discourse. These fundamental issues are overlooked mainly by divisive rhetoric and populist promises. For example, in areas such as Uttar Pradesh and Bihar, political campaigns usually centre on caste and religion rather than tackling severe deficiencies in educational facilities and healthcare services. Similarly, in Maharashtra, while political disputes frequently revolve around regional identity and linguistic issues, the state continues to face farmer suicides and rural unemployment.

Political parties’ lack of transparency and internal democracy is also glaringly visible this election cycle. Most parties have opaque decision-making processes and centralised power structures, limiting democratic participation and internal criticism. This internal authoritarianism fosters impunity and detachment from grassroots issues, undermining democracy. The BJP’s top-down decision-making has been challenged. Indian National Congress (INC) dynasty politics have long been suspected. Regional parties are similarly affected. Mamata Banerjee’s West Bengal Trinamool Congress (TMC) has been criticised for centralising authority and stifling opposition. The Aam Aadmi Party (AAP), which promised openness and grassroots democracy, has also been accused of autocracy and lack of internal democracy, particularly in removing founding members who questioned the leadership.

Nepotism, which prioritises family over talent and ability, is another worrying trend in Indian political parties.

Despite electoral losses, Rahul Gandhi and Priyanka Gandhi Vadra remain influential in the Indian National Congress (INC). Regional dynastic politics is seen in Uttar Pradesh’s Samajwadi Party (SP), led by Mulayam Singh Yadav’s son Akhilesh. The Karunanidhi family controls Tamil Nadu’s Dravida Munnetra Kazhagam (DMK), with M.K. Stalin ruling after his father.

Not only established parties are affected. The Maharashtra Shiv Sena is likewise a family affair, with Uddhav Thackeray succeeding his father, Balasaheb Thackeray, and now his son, Aaditya. In Andhra Pradesh, the Reddy family dominates the Yuvajana Sramika Rythu Congress Party (YSRCP), with Y.S. Jagan Mohan Reddy trying to emulate his father. While the BJP has often criticized other parties, particularly the Congress, for dynastic politics, it has not been immune to the same practices. Nepotism within the BJP can be seen as a strategic move to consolidate power and ensure loyalty within the party ranks.

Indian politicians in power and opposition, frequently seek endorsements from abroad to validate their actions and ideas. This craving for international approval is evident in their eagerness to speak at prestigious universities and their emphasis on statements by world leaders that praise their initiatives. These are then highlighted in domestic media, projecting an image of global respect and intellectual recognition. However, this pursuit of international validation can obscure pressing domestic issues. Indian politicians’ reliance on foreign endorsements can divert attention from the critical issues that require urgent and sustained focus.

Finally, the death of ideology across the Indian political spectrum is exemplified by politicians’ frequent party switching, which is motivated more by convenience, opportunity, and the seduction of power or money than by any firm commitment to principles or policies.

MLAs’ repeated floor-crossing has caused substantial political instability and governance issues in some states. This erosion of ideological loyalty erodes public trust and threatens the integrity of democratic institutions as voters increasingly struggle to rely on their elected leaders’ professed ideals.

The Sanskrit term Ātmānaṃ viddhi, or ‘Know thyself’, highlights the significance of deep self-awareness and introspection. It encourages a journey inside to find one’s actual nature and purpose. Perhaps Ātmānaṃ viddhi should be the united minimum programme of all political parties in India.

Dr Sunoor Verma is the President of The Himalayan Dialogues and an international leadership communication expert. More on www.sunoor.net

Published in The Himalayan Times in print on 29 May 2024

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Sex Education for Boys is good for national economies.

Posted on July 31, 2023 by sunoor

What is SexEd?

Sex education is a powerful tool that equips young individuals with accurate information about sexual and reproductive health. Beyond its social and health benefits, comprehensive sex education for boys also holds significant potential to impact a nation’s economy positively.

Patriarchal Norms in South Asia

In the unique cultural context of South Asia, where gender disparities prevail, focusing on sex education for boys becomes crucial. The region is characterized by deeply ingrained patriarchal norms and traditional gender roles, perpetuating unequal power dynamics in relationships and fostering unhealthy behaviours. Sex education can challenge these norms, promoting respectful attitudes towards women and encouraging gender equality. The rise in violence against women in developing countries is a serious problem that has several causes, including poverty, inequality, and harmful gender norms. One of the most critical factors contributing to this problem is the lack of comprehensive sex education for boys.

Disturbing Evidence

Of course, sex education is essential for girls as well. However, the specific challenges facing boys in South Asia make it especially important to engage them in this conversation. There is ample data to show that boys in South Asia are more likely to be the perpetrators of sexual violence, to be infected with HIV and other Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), and to be marginalized from sexual health services.

Disturbing statistics released by the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) in its 2023 ‘The State of the World’s Population Report’ shed light on the lack of sex education in South Asia. Merely 20% of schools in the region offer sex education, and only 10% provide comprehensive information on contraception, STIs, and abortion.

Consent, Communication, and Mutual respect

Comprehensive sex education goes beyond the physical aspects of sexuality and focuses on building healthy and respectful relationships. Educating boys about consent, communication, and mutual respect can lead to more fulfilling and equitable partnerships, contributing to healthier family dynamics and societal harmony.

Unintended pregnancies and STIs pose significant challenges in South Asia. The adolescent birth rate in the region, at 22 births per 1,000 girls aged 15-19, is the highest in the world, partly due to limited information about contraception and reproductive health among boys. Educating boys about STIs and prevention strategies can make significant progress in controlling their spread.

By promoting attitudes of respect, consent, and gender equality, sex education for boys also plays a crucial role in breaking the cycle of gender-based violence, including intimate partner violence and early marriages. According to the World Health Organization’s (WHO) ‘Global Status Report on Violence against Women and Girls’ of 2022, 37% of women in South Asia have experienced physical or sexual violence from an intimate partner. Educating boys about the importance of non-violence and respect for women can contribute to advocating for a safer and more inclusive society.

Furthermore, comprehensive sex education empowers boys to understand their responsibilities as fathers and be actively involved in their children’s lives. This can improve child well-being, family outcomes, and a more stable and prosperous society.

Poverty not an excuse

Despite challenges like poor schools and untrained teachers, introducing and strengthening sex education is imperative. Governments should collaborate with non-governmental organizations, international agencies, and community leaders to provide supplementary training and resources. Online resources and educational materials should complement classroom instruction.

Growing National Pride- an opportunity

Governments in South Asian countries are increasingly embracing their ancient civilizations and cultural heritage in school curriculums to foster national pride. As part of this growing trend, they can draw inspiration from their historical sex education practices and combine them with modern scientific knowledge to introduce comprehensive sex education in schools. Ancient traditions, like teachings from the Kamasutra in India, tantric practices connecting sexual energy with spiritual growth in India and Nepal, and temple art portraying human sexuality in India, Sri Lanka, and Myanmar, offer valuable insights. Additionally, specific tribal communities in India, Bhutan, and Nepal marked boys’ transition to manhood with ceremonies that included teachings about adult responsibilities, including those related to sexuality, marriage, and family life. Ancient Hindu scriptures such as the Kamasutra, Mahabharata, Arthashastra and the Upanishads highlight the broader principles of respect, mutual understanding, and responsible behaviour within relationships. While not explicitly promoting modern sex education, these principles can serve as a foundation for discussing sexual health, consent, and maintaining harmonious relationships in contemporary contexts. By blending this traditional wisdom with modern evidence-based approaches, these South Asian countries must offer relevant and age-appropriate sex education, empowering their youth with knowledge and promoting responsible attitudes toward sexual health and relationships.

Integrating sex education into the curriculum addresses social issues and has significant economic implications, as an informed and accountable youth can contribute to a more stable and prosperous society.

Best practices from poor countries exist

Several developing countries have successfully implemented comprehensive sex education programs for boys, promoting responsible sexual behaviour, reproductive health, and gender equality. In the late 1990s, Brazil launched successful sex education initiatives alongside discussions about gender equality and healthy relationships leading to significant improvements in reducing teenage pregnancies and the prevalence of sexually transmitted infections among adolescents. The Kenyan government has integrated comprehensive sex education into the national curriculum, covering topics such as reproductive health, family planning, and HIV prevention. Thailand has a comprehensive sex education curriculum that has contributed to a decline in teenage pregnancies and a reduction in HIV transmission rates among young people.

Comprehensive sex education is not a silver bullet but an essential tool for preventing violence against women and building a more just and equitable society for all. Investing in comprehensive sex education for boys is a matter of social responsibility and has profound economic implications. By empowering the youth with knowledge and fostering responsible attitudes toward sexual health and relationships, South Asian countries can pave the way for a more informed, equitable, and prosperous future.

After all, sex education is like fire prevention. You may not need it today, but you’ll be glad you had it if you do!

By Dr Sunoor Verma

Published in print and online in The Himalayan Times on 31st July, 2023